Unfortunately they were designed to KEEP you out of situations like this, not GET you out of them.

– Joseph Lallo, Bypass Gemini

Most systems and processes that companies and organizations put into place are about keeping the company on track and moving towards the goal. Sadly most plans and systems can not predict a changing world and changing circumstances. It might be more important at looking at what should be done when things don’t go as planned and you need to get out of a tough situation.

‘Human Resources.’
‘In Brussels that kind of department is referred to as the Office for Personkind Enablement. Resources sounds like something you dig out of the ground.

– Peter F. Hamilton, Great North Road

It is interesting that in many companies people are still talked about in the same way as machines or as resources. How you press a button on a machine usually does not matter. If you press it lightly or hard, the machine will start either way. But if you try to talk to a person your tone of voice and the words you use matter a lot for the end result.

The future can ever promise but one thing and one thing only: surprises.

– Steven Erikson

The most common question asked of me at the moment:

“So what will you do after you have finished your 6 month vacation?”

And my answer is almost always the same:

“I don’t know, that is what I’m trying to figure out”.

One thing I have figured out and that is that I have no idea what will happen when I return – what I will do or where I will live. I have a lot of thinking and feeling left before the new ideas will appear and then probably a lot of hard work to make them come true. I just hope that I will be surprised by them.

But, look, it is good to have a dream so long as you do not let it gnaw at the substance of your present. I have seen men consumed by their dreams, and it is a sour business. If you cling too tightly to a dream—a poodle bitch or a personal sausage chef or whatever—then you miss the felicity of your heart beating and the smell of the grass growing and the sounds lizards make when you run through the neighborhood with our friend. Your dream should be like a favorite old bone that you savor and cherish and chew upon gently. Then, rather than stealing from you a wasted sigh or the life of an idle hour, it nourishes you, and you become strangely contented by nostalgia for a possible future, so juicy with possibility and redolent of sautéed garlic and decadent slabs of bacon that you feel full when you’ve eaten nothing. And then, one fine day when the sun smiles upon your snout, then the time is right, you bite down hard. The dream is yours. And then you
chew on the next one.

– Kevin Hearne, Hammered

One of the most difficult things in the world for me is to feel content in the present, yet striving for something new and better in the future. This balance between staying in the present, planning for the future and learning from the past is much more important than the work-life balance most people are so worried about.

(I think I should add that the above quote is by Oberon, who is a dog and an amazingly fun character in Kevin Hearne’s Iron Druid series.)

“I have an apple that thinks it is a pear,” she said, holding it up. “And a bun that thinks it is a cat. And a lettuce that thinks it is a lettuce.”
It is a clever lettuce then.”
“Hardly,” she said with a delicate snort. “Why would anything clever think it was a lettuce?”
“Even if it is a lettuce?” I asked.
“Especially then,” she said. “Bad enough to be a lettuce. How awful to think you are a lettuce too.“

– Patrick Rothfuss, The Wise man’s fear

It is often more important who we think we are than what we actually are. What we think we are will give our brain a focus and the confirmation bias in our mind will find the events in our lives that confirm our belief. So what do you think you are?

If the desire to write is not accompanied by actual writing, then the desire is not to write

– Hugh Prather, Notes to myself

Many times I have thought I knew what I wanted. Maybe it was to work-out more, eat healthier or write that report that had been living in my todo-list for the last couple of weeks. I thought I really wanted to do those things, but as I didn’t do it, maybe I didn’t want to do it. Maybe I just wanted to have them done.

I often hear people say that they read to escape reality, but I believe that what they’re really doing is reading to find reason for hope, to find strength. While a bad book leaves readers with a sense of hopelessness and despair, a good novel, through stories of values realized, of wrongs righted, can bring to readers a connection to the wonder of life. A good novel shows how life can and ought to be lived. It not only entertains but energizes and uplifts readers.

– Terry Goodkind

This I believe with all my heart. I wish that I have written that text so I could put it up as the description with what I want to write about in my blog.

The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.

– Douglas Adams, The Salmon of doubt: Hitchhiking the galaxy one last time

Everything is normal within the framework we live in. When we go outside our framework things usually seem strange to us. Communication is about walking from our framework into someone else’s. To try to see the world through their eyes. This is where collaboration starts if we can respect the other’s framework when we see it or ends when we don’t.


Depend can be traced back to de + pendere, which literally can be translated to “to hang down from”. To be dependent on someone then means that it is someone you would trust to hang down from.

A person you can depend on should be treasured just like a valuable pendant hanging from your neck. Remember though to let these amazing people swing freely and let them be pendulums, swinging back and forth. Sometimes supporting you and sometime pushing you forward when you don’t want to go on. Sometime standing by your side and at other times swinging away discovering new things and new experiences they can bring back to you.

They will always be there though when you are hanging down from an edge to help you back up.

Most of the bad guys in the real world don’t know that they are bad guys. You don’t get a flashing warning sign that you’re about to damn yourself. It sneaks up on you when you aren’t looking.

– Jim Butcher

It is very hard to know if what you are doing is something positive or negative until after. I think most people who do strange or hurtful things are either very stressed or very afraid themselves. It is about finding what is making us stressed or fearful and dealing with it, and then try helping others deal with their stress and fears. It often feels much simpler to start with the people around you than with yourself.