There is but one reality; that is true—but the two of you experience it in slightly different ways.
-The Cinder Spires by Jim Butcher
Based on your experiences, goals, and personality you will experience the world in a different way than all other people you meet. The difference might be really small or very big. But we all focus on, see, and remember different things. This will cause a lot of conflicts and frustrations. But it will also create amazing solutions, make us learn new things and see problems in a different way.
We often need the similarities to start collaborating and getting to know one another. Then we need the differences to creates something unique.
“There’s the opposite of love at first sight. There are people walking the earth that the moment you meet them, you want to punch them and keep punching them.”
– Richard Kadrey, Sandman Slim
Some people we get along with directly and others we just want to punch the moment we meet them. The people you like and the people you don’t like are either really similar to you or your complete opposite.
I think it comes down to that we like people that remind us about our good traits, and we dislike the ones that remind us about our bad traits.
“One should never mistake pattern for meaning.”
– Iain Banks, The Hydrogen Sonata
Humans are pattern-seeking machines. We try to find connections everywhere and we will find them even if they are not there. After we find a pattern the story-machine takes over and will immediately create a story to explain the pattern and it will search in your vast memory to find all the evidence that will boost the story and the pattern, and hide away all the evidence that contradicts it. These two machines has created many horrors and wonders.