“You are always so perceptive about everyone but yourself.”
– Thor: The Dark World
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to find solutions to everyone else’s problems? That the solutions to their problems seem so obvious and simple, that you wonder why they haven’t thought about it before. Have you ever tried helping them by telling them your fantastic solution? And have the response been a bit of irritation and a long list of why that will not work in their case?
I have tried helping many people with suggestions, tips and ideas and most of them are rejected directly. Some ideas people have actually accepted but if I have talked to them a few weeks later they never did it. I still give way too many suggestions, but I am trying to change my behavior and stop it. One reason for this is that I have noticed how irritated I get when people give me solutions that will never work for me.
We all want to help the people around us, but people need to find their own solutions. The reason they have not found it yet is that they have not thought about it from all angles, and they just need some good questions to help them think.
What questions will you ask?