Save butts for the chairs

“Save butts for the chairs.”

– Psion Beta, Jacob Gowan

But is one of the most overused and dangerous words in the world. Most people only hear what is after the but and ignores what is before: That was a great presentation, but it could have used more pictures. One thing I do for some groups that have gotten stuck in the Yes, but game is to ask them to start each sentence with Yes, and. It seems a bit silly at first but it forces people to first focus on what was good in what the other people said and then add their opinion. Instead of focusing on what does not work with the other person’s suggestion and then say something they think would work.

Try going a whole day without using any buts, I can promise you it will be really difficult and life changing.