The problem with paths is that once you have chosen one, You cannot choose the others.

– Ian C. Esslemont, Orb Sceptre Throne

I both agree and disagree with this sentence. If you choose one thing then it is impossible to choose the other paths later because a path always changes. The result of a decision will always be different based on when we take it. It might be us that change when we ponder the question or the people who are waiting for your answer. So on a very literal/metaphysical level. You can never choose the other paths.

Most decisions we get stuck on, though, are rarely fatal or final. And by choosing one path, the other pats will change but not by much. Sometime it might take some extra time and cost a bit of money but most decisions can be changed.

It is usually better to do something then get stuck in indecision and let the possibilities pass you by.

She looked at me as if she saw something else inside of me – something wonderful, something worth knowing – and she was the only person who could make it out.

– Sarah Fine, Sanctum

A few people I have met in life seem to have this ability. Everyone they meet seem to be in the center of their world. It feels like nothing else matters but you and they accept you for who you are. What you say, your thoughts and your feelings are all ok. In this space of acceptance, deep conversations and open discussions appear. And they bring real learning and amazing growth.

Adults follow paths. Children explore. Adults are content to walk the same way, hundreds of times, or thousands; perhaps it never occurs to adults to step off the paths, to creep beneath rhododendrons, to finde the spaces between fences.

– Neil Gaiman, Ocean at the end of the Lane.

It is so easy to fall into the same foot steps every day. To do the same things. Some sort of habits or rituals for the day are good because it helps to focus our energy and intention for the day. Maybe a ritual for working out in the morning or evening. Meditation, running or for what you eat for breakfast. But other things, if we get stuck in them become walls that hinder us. Always eating the same food, going to the same cafe, watching the same type of movies or only reading books by the same type of authors. It is easy to fall into one of these traps and it might be hard to know the difference between a habit that gives you energy or one that hinders you. But it is good to check your assumptions once in a while.

… what’s your favorite story, Tal?“
"I haven’t read it yet,” she replied.
“Oh, good answer.”

– Joe Ducie, Knights Fall

This quote made me think a lot. It is so easy for me to give an answer to what my favorite story, music, film, or … is. But hopefully I have not read it yet. If I have read my favorite story of all time, that would mean that everything I read from now on would be worse. So I hope with all my heart that my favorite is still out there.

Unfortunately they were designed to KEEP you out of situations like this, not GET you out of them.

– Joseph Lallo, Bypass Gemini

Most systems and processes that companies and organizations put into place are about keeping the company on track and moving towards the goal. Sadly most plans and systems can not predict a changing world and changing circumstances. It might be more important at looking at what should be done when things don’t go as planned and you need to get out of a tough situation.

HR?’
‘Human Resources.’
‘In Brussels that kind of department is referred to as the Office for Personkind Enablement. Resources sounds like something you dig out of the ground.

– Peter F. Hamilton, Great North Road

It is interesting that in many companies people are still talked about in the same way as machines or as resources. How you press a button on a machine usually does not matter. If you press it lightly or hard, the machine will start either way. But if you try to talk to a person your tone of voice and the words you use matter a lot for the end result.

The future can ever promise but one thing and one thing only: surprises.

– Steven Erikson

The most common question asked of me at the moment:

“So what will you do after you have finished your 6 month vacation?”

And my answer is almost always the same:

“I don’t know, that is what I’m trying to figure out”.

One thing I have figured out and that is that I have no idea what will happen when I return – what I will do or where I will live. I have a lot of thinking and feeling left before the new ideas will appear and then probably a lot of hard work to make them come true. I just hope that I will be surprised by them.

But, look, it is good to have a dream so long as you do not let it gnaw at the substance of your present. I have seen men consumed by their dreams, and it is a sour business. If you cling too tightly to a dream—a poodle bitch or a personal sausage chef or whatever—then you miss the felicity of your heart beating and the smell of the grass growing and the sounds lizards make when you run through the neighborhood with our friend. Your dream should be like a favorite old bone that you savor and cherish and chew upon gently. Then, rather than stealing from you a wasted sigh or the life of an idle hour, it nourishes you, and you become strangely contented by nostalgia for a possible future, so juicy with possibility and redolent of sautéed garlic and decadent slabs of bacon that you feel full when you’ve eaten nothing. And then, one fine day when the sun smiles upon your snout, then the time is right, you bite down hard. The dream is yours. And then you
chew on the next one.

– Kevin Hearne, Hammered

One of the most difficult things in the world for me is to feel content in the present, yet striving for something new and better in the future. This balance between staying in the present, planning for the future and learning from the past is much more important than the work-life balance most people are so worried about.

(I think I should add that the above quote is by Oberon, who is a dog and an amazingly fun character in Kevin Hearne’s Iron Druid series.)

“I have an apple that thinks it is a pear,” she said, holding it up. “And a bun that thinks it is a cat. And a lettuce that thinks it is a lettuce.”
It is a clever lettuce then.”
“Hardly,” she said with a delicate snort. “Why would anything clever think it was a lettuce?”
“Even if it is a lettuce?” I asked.
“Especially then,” she said. “Bad enough to be a lettuce. How awful to think you are a lettuce too.“

– Patrick Rothfuss, The Wise man’s fear

It is often more important who we think we are than what we actually are. What we think we are will give our brain a focus and the confirmation bias in our mind will find the events in our lives that confirm our belief. So what do you think you are?

If the desire to write is not accompanied by actual writing, then the desire is not to write

– Hugh Prather, Notes to myself

Many times I have thought I knew what I wanted. Maybe it was to work-out more, eat healthier or write that report that had been living in my todo-list for the last couple of weeks. I thought I really wanted to do those things, but as I didn’t do it, maybe I didn’t want to do it. Maybe I just wanted to have them done.